Wedding Night after Part-ay!

There's a lot of hype and expectancy the night of the wedding.  Some imagine a fairy tale experience.  Others are scared or nervous for the unknown. While many are in for a surprise.  What ever the case may be, it's an exciting anticipated night.  That moment you are alone for the first time and there's no rules with complete freedom.  Every touch is intoxicating to your senses.  The idea of no interruptions is liberating. 

The hectic planning for months and exhausting to-do's of that day may have drained all the energy you needed for the after PART-AY with your new spouse.  If you did or didn't get the wedding night experience you expected your reaction might have been one of the following:
· Satisfied
· Disappointed
· Too Nervous
· Don't remember
· Wish I wouldn't have partied so hard
· Blew my socks off
· Too Tired

Silent expectations will kill your wedding night.  If you had a picture in your head of how the night should go or should have gone and it didn't then you're allowing the expectations to govern your next steps with your spouse.  Your spouse deserves your communication.  Talk about how you would like your first time to go together or maybe what you might have thought would have happened but didn't.  This is an adventure that’s worth some experimenting.

Do not look to outside sources about your sex life.  I cannot stress this enough.  Your sex life is intimate and the closest you can ever get to any other human here on Earth.  Let your spouse be the ONLY one you share the details, moments and fun with.  It should never be easier to talk to your friends about your marriage than it is to talk to your spouse.  It's between you, your spouse and God.  No other person or source can educate you on their "oh yeah" other than your spouse.  Listen to what they have to say and make their needs your priority.

As you read my upcoming book you will notice me referring to the first year as "getting schooled in marriage."  So as you're getting schooled in marriage you have to express your thoughts instead of keeping them secret with hidden expectations for your spouse to achieve.  He/she doesn't know what you're thinking or what the next move should be as a pawn in the game of Chess going on in your head.  No need for a Chess face in marriage.  Enjoy the after PART-AY and leave the games for game night. 

God wants your relationship blessed beyond what you've ever seen before but first you have to stop comparing what you've seen with the marriage God has given you.  All people are different, all marriages are different and all relationships are different but God never changes.  His word has, is and will always be the same.  If He didn't think marriage was worth the investment He would have never created a marriage in the garden of Eden.  Marriage is one of God's top priorities.  I encourage you to put His eyes on and look at your marriage as a beautiful investment full of endless love and possibilities. 



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